I use this tool in meetings all the time, in fact, we actually train people on the value of it. I simply slip in a subtle "shit" near the beginning of the meeting e.g.
"Yeah, the weekend was great thanks, although the weather was a bit shit"
I generally say the shit part in that loud whispery tone, with the mouth stretched wide and the eyebrows raised, you know the one.
Then a funny thing happens, everyone else sees they have permission to swear, everyone else does, everyone relaxes and speaks in a fashion more conducive to strategic conversation, and I get the work. Really. Try it.
(if they don't take the bait, it's happened once or twice, you leave it at that and no-one minds).
If people swear at home, it means it's what they do when they're being themselves, real business happens when people start being themselves.
Make it fucking happen.
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Shit, now the secret's out...!
You're 100% correct, Polite Lingo often screws up efficient (and effective) communication.
Let's drop the crap, and communicate intelligently!
Posted by: Martin | 7 Jan 2005 07:52:09
And if people use profanity to express themselves, we might actually see a decline in the 'jargon-wars' that clutter and extend every business meeting.
That'll be a blessing.
Posted by: D'ave | 10 Jan 2005 10:56:23
yip you are right you fucking wanking poesklap....!
Posted by: rooibos | 10 Jan 2005 14:40:45
good one! you nailed it! :D
Posted by: ivan | 10 Jan 2005 21:40:25
I recently had a bit of a running altercation with a PC supplier about a defective piece of equipment that turned out not to be defective. I had to eat humble pie phoning the techie back, and I just said "I'm really sorry, I feel like a complete *doos*" I think that got the point across, he laughed and was immediately cool about it. Choosing one's cuss-words wisely can definitely help to break the ice :-)
Posted by: Colin | 12 Jan 2005 23:45:06